How Can I Help?
One of the best things one of my clients has ever said to me is “you see me, and you see my daughter”. That is what I do. I listen, I hear and I see you. You are the expert in your life. You know yourself and your children better than anyone else on the planet. Who would I be to come and tell you what to do, how to parent your children, how to live your life? If that’s what you are after, I’m not the person for you. What I can do is give you space, and time, and perspective. Space to breathe, to take a step back and see what is really going on for you. Time to think, to reflect and understand your own experience. I can help you find an alternative perspective, to help you to break from old patterns and be the parent you want to be.
Before I had children, I kept reading that becoming a parent is one of the hardest things you will do. I’m not sure I believed it. I’ve traveled solo in Africa, bungee jumped and rock climbed and I’ve worked as a child protection social worker, surely having a child is the most normal natural thing in the world, piece of cake!
But wow, was I wrong. Becoming a parent has been the most challenging, infuriating and life changing things I have ever done. If you are here, and a parent, you know this. You will also know how terrifying it is, how overwhelming, and how hard each day can be.
I’m lucky to have my professional background to help me, I should know how to manage most things right?! Hmm, more on that in a minute. I have really good friends and family. A great support network. I have a fantastic husband who is just as involved and invested in parenting as I am.
None of these things prevented me from experiencing post natal depression and anxiety. In fact the first time round, I didn’t even recognise it in myself (some expert right?!) . What I have now learnt as a Mum is that we all need help sometimes. No-one has all the answers. For me the loss of my identity, my work and my freedom was huge, and devastating for a time. And it was only through support, and almost being my own therapist, that I have come out the other side.
Recently I’ve been thinking about those people who don’t have the same resources that I have. What about parents living in isolated areas, where the nearest other new parent might be 20 minutes drive away. Where there aren’t any baby groups. What about parents whose own family are not all that helpful. Where do they go for support? What about parents who need some help with parenting but are worried about asking their GP or health visitor in case they are met with judgement or worse.
Thats where I come in. I can help you to understand yourself as a parent. I can help you to understand your children. I can help you to find solutions to your difficulties and challenges.
One to One Support
I can offer one to one sessions of support where difficulties can be explored and solutions can be sought. Rather than generalised parenting advice, this is an individual approach where the needs of all family members are considered and parents are encouraged to develop their own solutions….
If you are interested in one to one work and want to discuss it further click to book your free assessment call. We will have a 30 minute conversation about your particular circumstances and decode whether this service is right for you and your family.
E Mail Support
For some people, taking time to articulate their thoughts in an email may be a helpful approach to seeking support. By signing up to this service, you will received thoughtful and considered responses from myself which you will be able to save and reread.
Free Downloadable Resources
By becoming a site member, you will have free access to various downloadable resources, information and advice. You will also receive a regular email from me with our latest news.
By purchasing an online course, you are able to work through various modules at your own pace, re visiting them as required.
To book your free assessment call click here. Enter your details, choose a time and date that suits you and I will call you to discuss your needs. Alternatively, use the contact form below to email me any questions, or requests for alternative dates and times.
Although I have worked in therapeutic services and often work in alignment with therapeutic models, I am not a counsellor, psychotherapist or family therapist. During the course of our work, should I feel that you would benefit from the support of a professional in these fields I would support you to to find someone appropriate for your needs. I would be happy to work alongside other professionals and coordinate support should this be appropriate.
As a qualified social worker I have a professional responsibility to safeguard children and vulnerable adults. At times this may require me to make referrals to child or adult protection services in the relevant local authority. I would endeavour to do this alongside you and would inform you of any referrals that I needed to make unless there was an immediate risk of harm.